Hostel Life !!!

Finally, got settled in hostel..!!!

Life at home cannot be compared to the life in hostel. Both are entirely different.

Staying in a foreign place and having to adapt to the new surroundings can at times be tough. We will have to be independent and rely on ourselves is one but some may see this as a good thing since they have all the freedom to do anything and everything they want to without being restricted or questioned.

 Lots of freedom and independence in hostel, but still life at home is incomparable.  One has to keep in mind the convenience of others in hostel. 

All busy with their ipod hearing songs and glued with their mobile talking for the whole day ;) I really wonder who pays the bill :) And myself, looking at the phone for someone to call :(

Hostel life may not be something that everyone yearns for but it is definitely a great experience. Making things even better, I am fortunately enough to be able to stay in this lovely area with everything near me which saves me a lot of trouble having to travel out to get certain things like groceries fixed. 

Amanda's Wedding

October and this month November were fully filled with surprising events :) I was trotting between Madurai and Chennai and now almost settled in a place.To me, every year, October is a month of joy and surprises and this year is no exception. I have totally slacked off on reading the last month :( And hence decided to read a novel and to my surprise, the book was something about Wedding.

Amanda's Wedding by Jenny Colgan is a fiendishly funny debut novel and is a romantic comedy like no other. This is an author who will have you howling with laughter one moment. Well, Amanda’s Wedding took me by surprise… and not in a good way. I was expecting the book to be funny as it is, after all, a book about friends trying to sabotage their ‘friend’s’ wedding. But it was just a whole mess that I was so bored reading it. If it wasn’t written by Jenny Colgan, I would not have finished it at all (and I was really bored).

Mel is a copywriter and lives in a flat with a quiet woman named Linda. Fran, on the other hand, is someone who has Mel’s best interests in mind and tries to keep her from making a ‘man mistake’ every time, but of course Mel doesn’t listen to her. She and Mel are best friends and she practically lives in Mel’s flat.
Amanda, who I cannot even call ‘poor’ despite the antics of the others against her, is a real piece of work. She is condescending to Mel and Fran, she’s so bossy, she is disrespectful to the family of her fiancée, Fraser, and she is just so…fake. While I am not saying she deserved what she got, no one deserves to be leg-shackled to someone like that. And Fraser seems so nice…although I still wonder how they got engaged in the first place. Really.

I thought Fran was nice, but in the end, I was just surprised. I mean, you do not do that to your best friend and expect to be immediately forgiven. That was just undoing several years’ worth of friendship for a guy you didn’t even love.
The only characters that I actually liked was Fraser and his younger brother, Angus. They both seem to be nice and they actually look out for each other.

The book was unexpected because it wasn’t what I was expecting of her. The love angle of Mel’s love life was just so confusing as well as the love lives of the other characters. It’s as if not one of them can get it right. Mel ends up with someone unexpected, Fran does something unexpected and ends up with someone unexpected as well, and Angus is…well, you’ll see.

My rating would be 3.5/5

Marriages ARE made in Heaven !!

Its been almost a month I have posted something in this blog. And suddenly got a feeling of posting something today and specially about marriage for the "special one" :-) inspite  of me not feeling well.

Marriage is, in essence, finding a friend with whom you can share the rest of your life. It is a decision that has to be taken after lot of sensible thinking and practical analysis shredding all pretence. Marriage is about knowing that no matter how hard your day has been, back at home there is someone to listen you through and to help loosen your knotted shoulder muscles. It is also about having the confidence to voice your opinion freely without worrying what the other person will think you. So yes, it is everything about being compatible and all the above being good friends. Marriage is the sweet and cozy symbiosis between men and women.

Vedas have described marriage as a union of two bodies, two minds, two hearts and two souls that amicably resolve to live with each other. The sole purpose of the marriage is to get a soul-mate –this means relishing the company of someone one adores, getting a shoulder to cry on when one is in despair, getting relieved by oozing the emotions out which one can’t share with rest of the world, having someone consoling when one feels left out……. and the list is endless and perspective dependent.

One wise man had said- ‘always marry your girlfriend, if you couldn’t then make your spouse your girlfriend’.

Sounds awesome but is it pragmatic?

On the contrary, in the world-famous novel ‘Pride and Prejudice’ Jane Austin quotes- “Happiness in Marriage Is Entirely a Matter of Chance”.

Neither love marriage nor arranged marriage is perfect and both have their advantages and disadvantages.

Doesn’t matter what type of a marriage is, the real forte for a couple is turning it into a ‘Love cum arranged marriage’ where parents’ and the couple’s choice concur and it is the best of the both worlds. This does not mean that parents should always concur with the marrying couple’s choice but even in case of an arranged marriage both partners should try to pepper their relationship with faithful love and understanding to make it an ideal and blissful ‘love cum arranged’ marriage.

If any of the entities in the ‘Dynamics of the Marriage’ is ailing, then both partners should try their tooth and nail to fix that problem instead of using their teeth and nails to hurt each other. In every relationship, problems arise but real spirit is continuously striving to get over those problems instead of blaming and keeping quarreling.

In case of beyond-solving problems in a marriage, both partners should develop endurance to overlook the problem and look at the life remembering age old adages- ‘what can’t be cured must be endured’ and ‘this too will be over’.

As per the Indian scriptures, marriage is a sweet relationship which gives an individual the best companion for life and it’s the duty of every married couple to honor its sanctity.