Hostel Life !!!

Finally, got settled in hostel..!!!

Life at home cannot be compared to the life in hostel. Both are entirely different.

Staying in a foreign place and having to adapt to the new surroundings can at times be tough. We will have to be independent and rely on ourselves is one but some may see this as a good thing since they have all the freedom to do anything and everything they want to without being restricted or questioned.

 Lots of freedom and independence in hostel, but still life at home is incomparable.  One has to keep in mind the convenience of others in hostel. 

All busy with their ipod hearing songs and glued with their mobile talking for the whole day ;) I really wonder who pays the bill :) And myself, looking at the phone for someone to call :(

Hostel life may not be something that everyone yearns for but it is definitely a great experience. Making things even better, I am fortunately enough to be able to stay in this lovely area with everything near me which saves me a lot of trouble having to travel out to get certain things like groceries fixed. 

Amanda's Wedding

October and this month November were fully filled with surprising events :) I was trotting between Madurai and Chennai and now almost settled in a place.To me, every year, October is a month of joy and surprises and this year is no exception. I have totally slacked off on reading the last month :( And hence decided to read a novel and to my surprise, the book was something about Wedding.

Amanda's Wedding by Jenny Colgan is a fiendishly funny debut novel and is a romantic comedy like no other. This is an author who will have you howling with laughter one moment. Well, Amanda’s Wedding took me by surprise… and not in a good way. I was expecting the book to be funny as it is, after all, a book about friends trying to sabotage their ‘friend’s’ wedding. But it was just a whole mess that I was so bored reading it. If it wasn’t written by Jenny Colgan, I would not have finished it at all (and I was really bored).

Mel is a copywriter and lives in a flat with a quiet woman named Linda. Fran, on the other hand, is someone who has Mel’s best interests in mind and tries to keep her from making a ‘man mistake’ every time, but of course Mel doesn’t listen to her. She and Mel are best friends and she practically lives in Mel’s flat.
Amanda, who I cannot even call ‘poor’ despite the antics of the others against her, is a real piece of work. She is condescending to Mel and Fran, she’s so bossy, she is disrespectful to the family of her fiancée, Fraser, and she is just so…fake. While I am not saying she deserved what she got, no one deserves to be leg-shackled to someone like that. And Fraser seems so nice…although I still wonder how they got engaged in the first place. Really.

I thought Fran was nice, but in the end, I was just surprised. I mean, you do not do that to your best friend and expect to be immediately forgiven. That was just undoing several years’ worth of friendship for a guy you didn’t even love.
The only characters that I actually liked was Fraser and his younger brother, Angus. They both seem to be nice and they actually look out for each other.

The book was unexpected because it wasn’t what I was expecting of her. The love angle of Mel’s love life was just so confusing as well as the love lives of the other characters. It’s as if not one of them can get it right. Mel ends up with someone unexpected, Fran does something unexpected and ends up with someone unexpected as well, and Angus is…well, you’ll see.

My rating would be 3.5/5

Marriages ARE made in Heaven !!

Its been almost a month I have posted something in this blog. And suddenly got a feeling of posting something today and specially about marriage for the "special one" :-) inspite  of me not feeling well.

Marriage is, in essence, finding a friend with whom you can share the rest of your life. It is a decision that has to be taken after lot of sensible thinking and practical analysis shredding all pretence. Marriage is about knowing that no matter how hard your day has been, back at home there is someone to listen you through and to help loosen your knotted shoulder muscles. It is also about having the confidence to voice your opinion freely without worrying what the other person will think you. So yes, it is everything about being compatible and all the above being good friends. Marriage is the sweet and cozy symbiosis between men and women.

Vedas have described marriage as a union of two bodies, two minds, two hearts and two souls that amicably resolve to live with each other. The sole purpose of the marriage is to get a soul-mate –this means relishing the company of someone one adores, getting a shoulder to cry on when one is in despair, getting relieved by oozing the emotions out which one can’t share with rest of the world, having someone consoling when one feels left out……. and the list is endless and perspective dependent.

One wise man had said- ‘always marry your girlfriend, if you couldn’t then make your spouse your girlfriend’.

Sounds awesome but is it pragmatic?

On the contrary, in the world-famous novel ‘Pride and Prejudice’ Jane Austin quotes- “Happiness in Marriage Is Entirely a Matter of Chance”.

Neither love marriage nor arranged marriage is perfect and both have their advantages and disadvantages.

Doesn’t matter what type of a marriage is, the real forte for a couple is turning it into a ‘Love cum arranged marriage’ where parents’ and the couple’s choice concur and it is the best of the both worlds. This does not mean that parents should always concur with the marrying couple’s choice but even in case of an arranged marriage both partners should try to pepper their relationship with faithful love and understanding to make it an ideal and blissful ‘love cum arranged’ marriage.

If any of the entities in the ‘Dynamics of the Marriage’ is ailing, then both partners should try their tooth and nail to fix that problem instead of using their teeth and nails to hurt each other. In every relationship, problems arise but real spirit is continuously striving to get over those problems instead of blaming and keeping quarreling.

In case of beyond-solving problems in a marriage, both partners should develop endurance to overlook the problem and look at the life remembering age old adages- ‘what can’t be cured must be endured’ and ‘this too will be over’.

As per the Indian scriptures, marriage is a sweet relationship which gives an individual the best companion for life and it’s the duty of every married couple to honor its sanctity.

Are you afraid of the DARK ?

There was a time when Sidney Sheldon ruled the roost of contemporary fiction. Books such as BLOODLINE, THE OTHER SIDE OF MIDNIGHT, RAGE OF ANGELS and MASTER OF THE GAME were all over the place, with sales figures that resulted in self-perpetuating multiple paperback reprintings. 

Are You Afraid Of The Dark by Sidney Sheldon is a pretty confusing story and I am afraid that it’s not really my cup of tea. The book has 2 elements; either crime or a science gone wrong. Sidney Sheldon is called the 'Master of the Unexpected' as he never failed in keeping up with his fan's expectations, infact he always out did himself in his each book. Sadly for me 'Are you afraid of the dark'  was quite predictable and apparent. It was something you could call a typical Sheldon plot. The fact that I predicted each upcoming twist didn't put me off immediately. I forced myself to read the whole thing and kept reassuring myself that may be something new and thrilling pops up but that never happened and the book ended just like I thought so. But I must comment that Sidney Sheldon does write amazing power language and the power command of the characters in the book are really engaging.

Anyway, in my opinion, this is probably Sidney Sheldon’s worst work. However, do not misconstrue that to mean that the book isn’t worth reading; It is! It is fun, gripping and explores questions we should all be asking ourselves as human beings. It just doesn’t hold up to the standard I’ve set for Sheldon. But if you like Sidney’s form of writing, you can give it a try.

Welcome October :)

October is just around the corner. There are lots of things that I have to look forward to this month. Every year, it brings  in lots of surprises and hope this time it turns out to be the same :)

Had a great time reading "I have a dream" by Rashmi Bansal. The first thing that would attract you most  is its blue book cover and the fluffy white cloud, on which rests the book title. The aesthetics is in perfect sync with the title and concept that is “Dreams”. Quite naturally, the book is about one common dream that 20 social entrepreneurs have of transforming the world with their capabilities to something phenomenal. The stories are impressive because of the amazing grit and resolve that each one has shown to bring a change in the society. It's plain inspiring and makes you think, " What am I doing for the country? "

I am glad that someone out there is not as selfish as we are and is relentlessly working to bring a change in the society. There are IIT grads, IIM passouts and many many others who could have easily had a better life but chose to go down this path of social entrepreneurship.

The book also tells us that social entrepreneurship does not always mean no profits. You can always earn profits and yet be a driver of change in society. Some stories are so exceptionally impressive that you would feel the urge to quit job and do something similar. Why we don't do it, is a different topic altogether.

The bad part is it seems to have a more journalistic way of writing. Each story is more of an interview conducted by her. While there is nothing wrong in that approach, I feel it should be accompanied by immaculate writing that keeps the reader interested. This is where Rashmi fails. The writing does become dull at times, you'll have to push yourself to finish the book at times.

But it is not easy travelling around India, collecting the information, interviewing them and then penning it down to a book. And also making it a best seller. So, kudos for that. 

My rating for this book would be 3.5/5

Hmm..Can't wait for the awesome things going to happen in October. Hope it turns over a new leaf in my life.

Lord Ganesha - The Remover of obstacles

For all of us, our tryst with obstacles started even before we breathed first in this world, i.e., among those 300 million sperms travelling to the fallopian tube, one succeeded in meeting the egg and here we are reading this post. So life without obstacle is sweet without sugar. The first job of each one of us in morning is to thank God for keeping you alive to see the light of the day. When we face any problems, we tend to limit ourselves thoughtfully and tend to move into the world of depression. It is said that mind is like a parachute; works only when it is open. Life would be monotony without problems. It is those obstacles which we face, are the opportunities that make a person expand his wisdom by tactically handling those insurmountable problems.

For those believers in God, Lord Ganesha is always seen as the one who removes the obstacles in the path of success. Every new endeavour, even if it is a routine start of the day, Lord Ganesha occupies the first place in their prayers. The traditional annual worship of God  is known as Vinayagar Chaturthi. It is the day on which we offer special adoration to the Remover of Obstacles. The main sweet dish during the festival is the modak.
 Along with it, wooden apple(Lord Ganesha's favourite), and some flowers are offered.

May he remove all obstacles in pursuit of the spiritual path.

If God was a Banker

This weekend was quite boring for me  and had very few choices left to explore. Hence I decided to read the novel “IF GOD WAS  A BANKER”  written by Ravi Subramanian, an alumnus from IIM Bangalore.  The story is of two bankers of New York International Bank (NYIB) who started their career together post their MBA from IIMs. But as they come from different family backgrounds, they have different levels of ethics and benevolence.

The story revolves around five characters viz Sundeep, an arrogant and overconfident graduate from IIM Ahmadabad; Swami, a modest and honest chap from IIM Bangalore; Kalpana a campus recruit for NYIB who goes on to marry Swami; Aditya, the first boss of Swami, Sundeep and Kalpana; Natasha, secretary of Aditya whom Sundeep gets married to.

The two of them Swami and Kalpana are hardworking and honest but the other guy Sundeep is a firm believer of shortcuts in success. All three of them achieve incredible success in their careers but as it always happens, especially in typical Indian imagination, the person who had taken wrong way to achieve success lands in a predicament.

The story subtly brings out some of the corporate issues of the like Glass Ceiling, sexual encounters at work place etc. The story is slightly engrossing in nature at the beginning where in it reminded the famous book “Five Point Someone” by Chetan Bhagat  and in some patches becomes slightly boring. The story sometimes seems to be inspired by Bollywood movies where an arrogant boss takes advantage of his women sub-ordinates belonging to middle class background.
Well, my rating for this novel would be 2/5

Shed those Kilos...

What makes you choose a particular dress to wear for the big party?

Your mood, party theme and crowd..?? Or the bulges you need to cover up ??

Look around, chances are that one in five people will be overweight and one in 10 obese.

Women are increasingly falling prey to the obesity bug largely due to a sedentary lifestyle and good appetite. Also the new age woman who juggles a hectic work schedule and personal life sees her body undergo metabolic changes. More often than not, such women either skip meals or binge on unhealthy food; all leading to obesity. Apart from your shape, all those extra pounds can lead to many health problems. 

So, is there anyway out...??
Here are some simple ways to lose weight in a healthy manner....

• Keep a check on your metabolism. The Basal Metabolic Rate is the energy used by a person while inactive. Agents in chillies and pepper help increase BMR. So next time, choose a spicy dish over a sweet one.
• Increase fibre intake. It will keep you feeling full for longer. Foods rich in fibre include whole grains, beans and green leafy vegetables.
• Ban the lift. You must have heard of " lift the ban" but it's time to ban the lift. Use stairs whenever possible and sweat away those calories.
• Gym responsibly. Excessive gymming  leads to muscle and water loss.

Don't expect miracles overnight. Try these faithfully along with healthy eating and I am sure you'll see a marked change in yourself.

By now, you must have heard this news...people who eat chocolates remain slim than those who don't.

So, instead of binging on pizzas and burgers, you can have those chocolates :)

Don't restrict kids...

Phew....The last week had been damn crazy with fever and runny nose. And now with full of energy, I start to write this week's blog post.

                                   Don't climb on that, you will fall....

                                  Don't go into dark room, the ghost would catch you....

These are some classic examples of a parent restricting her child from trying a simple and natural movement like climbing. I hear these a lot from my aunt and now my 2 year old cousin fears even to go to nearby room. It seems that the modern parent is also terrorised by the most functional movement. I've actually lost count of the number of times I've heard my neighbour tell his 3 year old son that he will fall and break his bones if he runs.

Such reminders only inhibit children from trying different movements. There is no point in complaining later that children are inactive. Fear of injury is one side of the coin. The other side sees some parents push them into serious sports at a very early age to live out their dreams through their children. There has to be a holistic approach when it comes to encouraging kid in sports. As a parent, one should not restrict a child; but provide them a safe environment to explore.

Kids tend to copy their parents. If you get back home only to sit and watch TV, the chances of your child being active are bleak. So start introducing children to playground and some fun exercises.

As I am suffering from cold and fever..:(

                                       As I am suffering from cold and fever.....

 No matter what is or isn’t standardized  in India, there is one thing that is completely standardized, on which people are educated perfectly from their 4th grade in school, which is passed on till the date that they retire from employment. That is, writing a letter requesting a grant for a leave of absense...:)

Looks very simple....a very simple and easy reason to say, but  suffering with runny nose and fever and enduring with it is really a herculean task. And I am too suffering now..:(

People do not tend to develop themselves with the skill of making their leave application look any better, and they just want to continue with this culture till the end of the world it seems.

And now "As I am suffering from fever, I am not able to write this post further..:D"

Journey of a Girl - Part 2 :)

Wow....Journey of a Girl beautifully portrayed in this recent advertisement.  Really an alluring video...!!



P.S. I am not an endorser :P

Courtesy : Jos Alukkas

Journey of a Girl

The baby girl, the apple of everyone at home. She is like the butterfly with most vibrant colors of the universe.  We all read, feel and understand her identity, yet, we treat her as per our convenience and whims and fancies.

The little angel who is a girl is beautiful, soft, loving and charming....the creator of a family. It is such a pleasure watching her, listening to her sweet melodious voice,her delicate approach towards life, the rolling tears in her eyes at the slightest scoldings .

What follows is her schooling. She goes to school in the spotless crisp uniform.She is academically conscious about her performance from the first day. She tries her best to be in the good books of all the teachers, score highest marks in all the subjects, never be punished by any teacher. She wants to remain disciplined in front of her fellow boys. She craves to be appreciated in front of other girls.  She has big career goals and high ambitions in life. At home, she is a helping hand for the other family members. She is expected never to misbehave, back answer or be rude. She tries to comply with all the conditions.

Next is the phase of young lady. Life is lovely and so are her dreams. Here comes the awareness of the  Prince waiting to carry her off in his horse to distant lands where she will have only happiness. She dreams of sinking into his arms & living happily ever after.
There is eventually a tug of war between her parents and her to find the “Mr. Right”. All this goes on while she is advised to improve her grooming sense, dressing sense,culiniary expertise and responsibility handling. She is made aware of the fact that she needs to conduct herself well enough to be able to handle a family independently. She is made health conscious. Every time she develops a soft corner for anyone , she either pulls herself back voluntarily , or is forced to pull herself back for she is not sure of the person who would finally hold the strings of her life. She is at a threshold with all her grace, beauty, emotions to shower on her soulmate. 

 New life, new atmosphere, new experiences, new power and responsibility.

 The last and final Phase is the most interesting and challenging. The phase of rediscovery! Rediscovering the youth in her obviously. Children have gone their way & grandchildren are finding theirs.  A phase when time is available aplenty but physically she can’t cope up with all she wants to do.  After all nature has ordained her with a great amount of emotional strength. She achieves all her dreams or at least tries to. For as they rightly say, AGE IS ALL IN THE MIND.

Coming Out Of Hibernation

Argh..... Only one blog post so far this year, I’ve been totally stacked. I've been exhausted and bogged down with too many works swirling around in my head.

Lots have been changed in my life...:) 

Strange feeling creeps my mind saying that "You are not a kid anymore..:( "

I’ve not found the time to blog – everytime I think about it I feel it needs to be something big and shiny as it’s been such a long time… so today I decided just to post a little something to get back in the swing of things. 

Life is what you make it

I ended up reading Preeti Shenoy's Life Is What You Make It.  Yes, one look at the front cover of Preeti Shenoy’s novel ‘Life is What You Make It’ and I fell madly in love with her, she made me poetic and I read the book in 3 hours. It is a well crafted and synchronized novel, in which emotions are intensely described.